Thursday
Jul062017

Who will be the voice for my wife who suffers from Lyme?

by Adam Troy

am no doctor, I can't even pretend to be, but I have eyes and I can definitely see the toll that this disease has had on my wife. I have seen the number of scoffs from medical officials and the brush off that comes at even the mention that there is something incomplete in their diagnosis. I am, though, a slightly educated person that has a voice and I believe that anyone with a voice should speak up for those who do not have one, for whatever reason. Sometimes people are just so used to trusting their doctors that they just cannot bring themselves to not openly accept what they say. Sometimes people are so scared that they do not realize that they too have a voice in their treatment and medical care. Sometimes people believe that because the doctor has to be so smart and is required to do the right thing every time that they allow themselves to be convinced that they are wrong or crazy, or depressed. Sometimes patients are just too tired of the fight (the everyday fight to exist, to face another day of pain and suffering, to put on a happy face) that they just stop.


My heart goes out to those that don't have anyone to fight for them. I have seen the struggle of constantly explaining things to friends and family. Explaining why she can't do something today or why she can't make it to the family function. I have seen friends turn their backs on my wife and I because they just could not understand what she struggles with. I have watched her cry because she just doesn't want to deal with it anymore. I have watched her walk away from a job that she loved, where she was able to help people, she was able to be a part of a bigger cause than herself. I tried for a full a year to convince her that her health was more important and now I have to watch her wrestle with that realization. I watch her cry over not being able to enjoy her granddaughter. I feel the financial, burden of dealing with a disease that the system believes is a myth.
 
I have wanted to sit down and tell her story so many times but have struggled over how to do so. Do I tell you about coming home from a vacation and realizing that there was something wrong with her? Do I tell about going to doctors who only wanted to prescribe narcotics and then treat her like a criminal after doing so? Or the many doctors that came after and just couldn't figure out what was going on? Or how many times doctors have looked at her with a smile and told her not to worry saying, "Let me worry about this"? I don't know if there was anything as disheartening or, for that matter, infuriating, as the doctor that refused to run the tests that we knew should be run and then just said "it's all in your head". 
 
To that doctor and to those like him I hope that they never have to walk a day in my shoes or, heaven forbid it, a day in hers. I would not wish this on anyone. I could not conceive of putting this on another person. But what will it take? How will the system that so adamantly refuses to acknowledge the existence of such a wide spread problem actually begin to believe the oath they took when they became doctors? What has caused the medical community, except for a few, to close their eyes to an epidemic? How can 300,000 newly diagnosed cases each year, according to the CDC, be written off as somatoform disorder after a round of antiquated treatment doesn't work? Where is the humanity in this? Who will be the voice for these people? Who will be the voice for my wife? Though it may just be a small voice in hurricane I cannot be quiet. I will not be quiet.
 
"I will remember that there is art to medicine as well as science, and that warmth, sympathy, and understanding may out weigh the surgeons knife or chemists drug." This is part of the Hippocratic oath. Where is this in the treatment of Lyme disease? How much sympathy is involved when the answer is simply, it must be in your head? There is no warmth or understanding involved when there is no real attempt to find a cure. The only thing that is done here is that the doctors are choosing not to become martyrs on a cross, they are choosing not to disagree with the CDC. My thanks goes to the doctors who HAVE staked their career on the fulfillment of this oath. I believe that you took your oath seriously and truly did care for your patients and some have paid dearly for that. I believe that the only way to change anything is try to be the change, so we have nothing to lose, I watch my wife carry her cross every day, I carry it for her most days so I will not let that be in vane. There must be a change.
 
"I will not be ashamed to say 'I know not,' nor will I fail to call in my colleagues when the skill of another is needed for a patient's recovery." More from the Hippocratic oath, Where is the consultation with others? Is it pride that keeps doctors from admitting that maybe they don't have all of the answers? Pride has no place here, your pride is a poor substitute for the sufferers' basic human dignity. Call in as many doctors as you have to, we're not afraid of another doctor. Anyone suffering from Lyme has seen enough doctors that they are no longer afraid, if the next one can get closer to an understanding. Calling a condition that you do not understand psychosomatic is lazy, it's more than that, it's demoralizing. You don't have to hear my wife beg me to believe her. Every time without fail, she begs me to reassure her that I believe she's not making this up. When a doctor says that, they plant the seed that the sufferer should just give up and that all of the people who have walked away were right to do so. You plant the seed that they need to give up because there is no hope. YOU ARE WRONG!! I will say it loud because I have nothing to lose. THE CDC IS WRONG, THE IDSA IS WRONG!! Any doctor who wants to tell my wife that she is not sick, "YOU ARE WRONG!!"

The Oath goes on to say that doctors do not simply "...treat a fever, a cancerous growth, but a sick human being, whose illness may affect the person's family and economic stability. My responsibility includes these related problems if I am to care adequately for the sick." So, here I am, the voice of the affected family. I want answers, I want real answers to the questions I am asking. I am not asking what she is suffering from, I know that. I am not asking what her treatment will be, I know the answer to that. I am asking when will she be given validation and seen as sick human being and not some lunatic to be disregarded. I have seen the rashes, they are not in my head. I have seen the seizures, they are not in my head. I have seen the tears, they are not in my head. I have sat through every doctors appointment and heard every confused answer from every doctor who was too proud to say what they know to be true or too afraid to run the right tests because they didn't really want to see the answer, these are not in my head. Subsequently, I have picked up every prescription that should never have been prescribed because a doctor felt like he had to say or do something. A word of advice: A simple I don't know would be better than an unnecessary medicine. But that's the rub, most of you do know, you know damn well what is going on and you won't say it because it will cost you too much.
 
"I will prevent disease whenever I can, for prevention is preferable to cure." I've said before that I am no doctor but it seems to me that you cannot prevent something if you refuse to look at it when it's right in front of your face. If a gun is being held to your head, closing your eyes does not make it go away. Look at the facts, these are numbers from the CDC's own survey conducted in 2012, concerning the recovery time for Lyme patients who were treated by the IDSA guideline's from 2006:
-39% were treated for less than 4 weeks (consistent with IDSA) 
-20% were treated for 5 – 8 weeks 
-36% were treated more than 8 weeks 
-5% did not receive Tx
(https://www.lymedisease.org/alix-mayer-cdc-2/)
 
It's interesting to me that more than half of the diagnosed cases require treatment beyond the IDSA guidelines. I am a numbers guy, I work in sales, in evaluating the effectiveness of one of my employees all I have to do is look at the numbers. The numbers don't lie. As a matter of fact, I am held accountable to those numbers and if they are consistently short of where they need to be then I have to rethink what I am doing and change them or else I get fired. Who is holding the CDC and the IDSA accountable to their numbers? There are over 3,000,000 cases of Lyme in the U.S.. alone. Those are the diagnosed cases. How many people are suffering in silence because doctors just don't have an answer? How many more cases would we see and treat in this country if there was legitimacy given to those we already know about? Someone has to answer these questions. Is it our doctors? Senators? Governors? The President? I say yes to all of them. They need to hear our voices. One small voice in a hurricane will get lost but if there are enough small voices then eventually someone hears and maybe a rescue can be made.

 

Adam Troy is the loving husband of Lisa Quinn Troy who is one of the many sufferers of Lyme Disease. He is also a General Manager of a construction staffing firm. Adam is an advocate for change.

Saturday
Jul042015

How to De-Stress

Have any stresses in your life?  I’m sure you do; don’t we all. I have dealt with a child with special needs with Asperger’s Syndrome, raising two other children, adopting two additional children due to a tragedy with their parents, all while constructing a new building for my business that happened to go $400,000 over budget due to rising energy costs in 2008.  Talking about challenges, I would say that my wife and I have had our share.  Miraculously, throughout all of the challenges, I was still able to stay centered and focused on the desired end result.  In fact, I remember my banker saying that he had never seen anyone overcome so many obstacles and still have a smile.  Many people would ask how I did it.  Are you curious?  Well, it’s simple.  I practice daily and consistent meditation.

See, I am a 30 year plus Martial Arts practitioner and a professional martial artist.  No, that doesn’t mean I go and fight all over the world.  It means that I make a living by teaching and training in the martial arts.  I have been blessed to have a mentor (Grandmaster Byung Min Kim) who has been guiding me in the spiritual aspects of martial arts, including meditation.   I have been practicing meditation consistently for over 15 years and I have to say, without a doubt, it is the best practice that anybody could do.  Especially if they experience stressful situations or challenges that must overcome.

Why?  It can be summed up in two words.  MENTAL REJUVENATION.  Let me ask you a question.  Have you ever had an emotionally challenging day and become physically drained?  Yet, you have not exercised?  Of course you have; we all have.  Do you know why?  It is because all of your mental energy was depleted and you had nothing left to give.  It is as if your cell phone died and needed recharging.  The challenge that most people have is that they don’t give themselves an opportunity to recharge their batteries.  Therefore, they are stuck in the midst of the crisis or the situation and not able to approach things with a clear mind.  That is where meditation comes in.

Meditation gives you the opportunity to recharge your batteries and approach things from a 30,000-foot view rather then in the middle.  Here’s another angle for you.  Did you know that our personal energy is like a hose?  When there is stress, doubt, fear, frustration or any negative emotion, this causes a kink in your energy hose.  As a result, thought-energy is unable to flow freely and effortlessly through you and you remain stuck without a solution.

Here is another question for you.  Have you ever had an idea come to you in the shower?  What about when you were exercising?  Or maybe right before you went to sleep?  Has that ever happened?  My guess is yes and it is important to know why.  When you are relaxed and able to calm your mind, all those kinks in your energy hose becomes undone and your thought-energy flows more freely.  This is, without a doubt, the biggest benefit of meditation.

OK, so how do I meditate?  First thing is you will need to breathe properly.  Most people breathe with their upper chest and their lungs.  While this is correct, it is the deep abdominal breathing that brings you the most benefit.  If you ever watch a baby breathe, you will notice that their belly will go in and out, not their chest.  So, as you inhale, you want to push out your lower stomach, and as you exhale, your lower stomach retracts.  It will feel like backwards breathing at first but once you get used to it, it will feel like second nature.   Practice breathing like this when you are driving, when you are sitting, when you are experiencing stress, whenever you can and this alone will help you.  This is the first step.  Once you learn how to breathe properly, we can get you into practicing meditation.

Now, next step is to find a quiet place to practice meditation.  I recommend a chair or pillow in front of your bed.  When I wake up in the morning, I first drink some water, use the bathroom and go right into meditation in front of my bed.   Sit down comfortably, making sure your back is completely erect, close your eyes and count your breaths.  Every inhale and exhale is a count of one. Give yourself a goal to start with.  For example, 50 deep breaths may turn out to be a fifteen-minute meditation.  100 deep breaths may turn out to be a half hour.  When you are in meditation, thoughts will come into your mind.  Your job is to not resist those thoughts but to let them roll out as quickly as they came in.  If you think about resisting the thought, you will not be able to focus on the counting.  Over time, this will relax you and each meditation will feel as if you were on a mini vacation.  Trust me, it works.

Recommendation:  Start small at first by doing ten-minute meditations and as that gets easier, add on the time.  Before you know it, you will be practicing an hour a day.  Remember to focus solely on your breathing and practice first thing as you wake up in the morning.   Our mind is a little less filled with clutter at this time and it is a bit more impactful.  Lastly, please do not expect immediate results after one ten-minute meditation.  It takes diligence and consistency for you to receive the mental clarity you are seeking. As with anything, it takes time. 

I truly believe that this is what has helped me through extremely challenging times and still helps me to this day.  I hope you receive the same kind of benefits that I have.

Enjoy and happy meditating!

Chris Berlow

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Editor's Note: Master Chris Berlow is a 6th degree black belt and the owner of the highly successful United Martial Arts Centers in Briarcliff Manor NY. He’s been teaching Martial Arts and Meditation for over 20 years. He is also a principal of EMPOWERED MASTERY, a personal transformation coaching firm that has had a positive impact on thousands of individuals. Additionally, Master Berlow is a co-author of the best-selling book, “YOU HAVE INFINITE POWER,” and the author of “IT’S NOT ABOUT THE BELT.” He is currently producing a video to be released this August that will instruct parents on how to do mindful meditation with children.